Over years of working with men and women who seem strong, successful, composed, and “sorted,” I’ve learned there’s something underneath. Most people are not difficult; they are wounded. When wounds go unexamined, they don’t heal. They reorganize into habits. And when habits are repeated long enough, they become part of their identity. That is the core truth I want you to remember as you read this: If you don’t face your emotional conditioning, your past will quietly shape your personality. And once it becomes your personality, you will defend it as “just who I am.” Let me tell you about Maya. The Story of Maya — Strong, Independent, and Imprisoned Maya was striking. Not just physically; she was beautiful in that effortless way that makes people stare twice, but also energetically. She entered a space like someone who had wrestled life before breakfast and won. She spoke with confidence. Her opinions weren’t just suggestions; they were declarations. There was a certaint...
There's a sentence that has stayed with me for years: “Edwin, you never listen to me.” If you know me, you’ll find that accusation strange. I love conversation. I can sit across a table and discuss ideas, faith, leadership, business, habits, archetypes, and human nature, and lose track of time. I enjoy good banter. I enjoy depth. I enjoy watching someone’s mind light up when they realize something about themselves mid-sentence. So when I heard that line, I paused. Was I not listening? Or was something deeper happening? Sometimes the person speaking was barely audible. Words were half-formed. Thoughts were whispered. It was almost like they were arguing with themselves before they ever engaged me. I would lean forward and say, “Could you say that again?” and somehow that simple request felt like rejection to them. That bothered me because I started to notice this: many people don’t speak from their chest. They speak from their throat. They speak out of fear, out of uncertaint...