Edwin's Corner

  What Is the Cost of Carrying Everything Alone? This article was inspired by Episode 2 of The Men's Group Debate Series, held on June 6, 2026, at Savelberg Retreat Center in Nairobi , under the theme "The Men Nairobi Raised Are Not the Men Nairobi Needs." The debate, moderated by Erick Opon and featuring contributions from Justus Kirigua, Titus Lwanda, Steve Wasilwa, and Collins Munene, explored five provocative questions on success, fatherhood, provision, emotional health, and identity. What follows is not a transcript of the debate but a reflection on the ideas, stories, and tensions that emerged as a room full of men wrestled with what it means to become whole. --- A few years ago, I asked a man how he was doing. It was not a particularly difficult question — one of those ordinary questions we ask every day. He looked at me, paused, and answered exactly as men have for centuries. "Fine." There are many fascinating words in the English language...

  Reflections on The Provider Trap --- This article was inspired by Episode 2 of The Men's Group Debate Series, held on June 6, 2026, at Savelberg Retreat Centre in Nairobi , under the theme "The Men Nairobi Raised Are Not the Men Nairobi Needs." The debate, moderated by Erick Opon and featuring contributions from Justus Kirigua, Titus Lwanda, Steve Wasilwa, and Collins Munene, explored five provocative questions on success, fatherhood, provision, emotional health, and identity. What follows is not a transcript of the debate but a reflection on the ideas, stories, and tensions that emerged as a room full of men wrestled with what it means to become whole. ---   There are few phrases more dangerous to a man than: "I'm doing this for my family." Not because it is false, but because it is often true. And because it is true, it can hide all sorts of things behind it — exhaustion, avoidance, workaholism, emotional absence, distance, and sometimes...

Reflections on The Motion - Success Tax --- This article was inspired by Episode 2 of The Men's Group Debate Series, held on June 6, 2026, at Savelberg Retreat Centre in Nairobi , under the theme "The Men Nairobi Raised Are Not the Men Nairobi Needs." The debate, moderated by Erick Opon and featuring contributions from Justus Kirigua, Titus Lwanda, Steve Wasilwa, and Collins Munene, explored five provocative questions on success, fatherhood, provision, emotional health, and identity. What follows is not a transcript of the debate but a reflection on the ideas, stories, and tensions that emerged as a room full of men wrestled with what it means to become whole. --- Nairobi has a unique way of convincing men that they are doing well. It starts innocently enough. A slightly nicer phone. Then a better apartment. Then a car with buttons you don't fully understand. Then, children in schools whose fees require prayer and mathematics to coexist peacefully. Then...

  A Men's Mtaani Chronicle  It was a Saturday afternoon, and I was feeling dangerously pleased with myself. That can be risky. As a habit coach, I have learned that most victories belong to the client. I am usually just a mirror. The work is theirs. The courage is theirs. The uncomfortable actions are theirs. Yet on this particular afternoon, I could not help but act. I had just come from a coaching session with a client who, after months of wrestling with himself, was finally beginning to see what the rest of us had long seen. Potential. Not the motivational-speaker version of potential. The frustrating kind. The kind that sits in plain sight while a person remains convinced it's not there. For months, we had worked through limiting beliefs, difficult questions, habits that quietly sabotaged progress, and stories he had inherited about himself that no longer served him. And then something shifted. Not dramatically. Not with fireworks. Not with a life-changing ...